SURTHRIVAL

The first 40-day Christian devotional written by a male survivor, for male survivors, with practical help for your body, your mind and your faith every day.

"I'm a grown man. So why does this still hurt so much?"

If you're a man who was sexually abused, you might carry that question every day. You might wonder why your body freezes when a door opens without warning. Why a TV advert can make you cry or explode. Why you plan your whole day around feeling safe. Why you've moved city after city, or reached for drink and drugs, or never told a single soul.

You're not weak. You're not dirty. You're not broken beyond repair. And you are not alone.

SURTHRIVAL: Breathing Space for Broken Blokes is a 40-day devotional written by a man who has lived it. Abuse that came through people in church. Years of addiction, shame and running. PTSD that could leave him frozen at his desk. And a Jesus who never let him go.

This isn't a polished book from someone who has it all figured out. It's one survivor sitting down next to another and saying, "Let's take today together."

Every day includes:

• A panic button for the moments when it all floods back
• Scripture chosen for what you're actually facing that day
• Survivor voice: real, honest memories of living with the aftermath of abuse
• What's happening in your body: clear, evidence-based science on trauma, explained for ordinary blokes
• Spiritual help: prayer and spiritual warfare in the name of Jesus
• Practical help: grounding, breathing and calming tools you can use straight away
• Reflection questions and a reminder to carry through your day

Over 40 days, you'll explore:

• Why your body froze, and why that was never consent
• Shame that was never yours to carry
• Triggers, flashbacks, sudden noises and hypervigilance
• Heat, panic, sensory overload and feeling out of control
• Masculinity, changing rooms and feeling less of a man
• Addiction, numbing and "Why can't you just stop?"
• Family silence and not being believed
• Church abuse and when the news brings it all back
• When the police case goes nowhere
• Lost memories, freeze and dissociation
• Safe places, safe people and asking for help
• Hope, healing and discovering that you are still here

SURTHRIVAL won't:

• Blame you
• Pressure you to forgive before you're ready
• Tell you it happened for a reason
• Promise a breathing exercise will fix everything

It will sit beside you, every day, and help you find the place where God meets you in the middle of it.

Perfect for men who have survived sexual abuse in childhood or adulthood, men in recovery, men in therapy or support groups, and partners, pastors and counsellors who want to understand.

This devotional is a companion, not a substitute for therapy, medical care or crisis support. UK helpline numbers are included inside.

There is still life beyond what happened to you. There is still hope. There is still you.